Struggling to Find the Right Therapist? Here’s What to Look For
Finding the right therapist can feel a little like dating—you’re looking for someone you connect with, someone who “gets” you, and ideally, someone who won’t just nod and ask, “How does that make you feel?” (I mean, sometimes, sure—but not all the time!). Credentials and experience matter, of course, but at the heart of a successful therapy journey is something less concrete: therapeutic fit.
What is Therapeutic Fit?
Therapeutic fit refers to the connection and sense of alignment between a therapist and a client. It’s not just about credentials—it’s about whether their approach, personality, and presence make you feel heard, understood, and safe. Research shows that the quality of the therapeutic relationship is one of the strongest predictors of positive outcomes in therapy.
How to Know If a Therapist is Right for You
How do you know if a therapist is the right fit? Here are a few key signs:
You feel comfortable opening up.
You feel validated and supported.
Their communication style resonates with you.
They provide meaningful insights you can apply to your life.
A good therapeutic fit doesn’t mean therapy is always comfortable—growth is often challenging. However, you should feel like your therapist truly gets you and is someone you trust to guide you through the work.
My Approach to Therapy
For those seeking a therapist in Denver, Colorado, or looking for online therapy in Nebraska, my approach is direct, realistic, and down-to-earth. Each session is a space for meaningful, transformative work where clients actively engage in their growth—both in and between sessions.
My style balances:
Empathy and support with direct challenges.
Solutions and strengths over dwelling on problems.
Fresh perspectives that encourage stepping beyond comfort zones.
Philosophy and spirituality—whether energetic or structured—serve as foundational frameworks for authentic living. Life becomes much easier when we embrace who we are and align with our true selves.
Is This Style of Therapy Right for You?
That said, my approach isn’t for everyone. If you prefer therapy that is overly soft, passive, or coddling, we may not be the right fit.
While deep empathy and support are core to my practice, therapy with me also involves:
Asking hard questions.
Providing honest, direct feedback.
Encouraging personal accountability.
The goal is to empower, affirm, and challenge in a way that fosters true transformation.
Finding the Right Fit Takes Time
I know firsthand how important it is to find the right therapist—it took me three attempts before I found the one who truly worked for me. I remember how frustrating it was: sitting on the phone for a consultation, waiting weeks to get on their calendar, re-telling my story—only to realize we weren’t vibing.
That experience reinforced how vital it is to:
Ask specific questions that matter to you.
Trust your instinct after the first consultation.
Not be afraid to say, “I don’t think we’re the right fit.”
You won’t hurt our feelings, and you’ll save yourself a ton of time and effort.
Therapy is an investment in yourself, and taking the time to find the right fit is an act of self-care and self-respect. Whether you're seeking counseling for relationship issues, navigating a major life transition, or looking for support through pet loss grief, I’d love to help.
Ready to Take the Next Step?
If you're searching for a therapist in Denver, Colorado, or exploring online therapy in Nebraska, let’s connect. Schedule a free consultation today and see if we’re the right fit to work together!
